We can all agree that the more valuable people we have in our lives, the more difficult it can be to maintain a healthy balance in the relationships. Every special person in our life needs our adequate attention. They depend on us to show up and follow up. It is in our nature to crave our loved one’s company and acceptance.
After having a baby, it can get challenging to juggle important relationships. My morning time with Jesus is now shared with little Josephine as I meet her needs. Our quiet “tea for two” with Teddy can involve baby toys flying across the table. I am super grateful and humbled by this opportunity for growth. With a baby in the mix, it is harder to give undivided and focused attention to my spouse. Which is why I am a firm believer in dating my husband for it allows us to be left alone. We all know that in order for relationships to stay strong, we need to feed the fire.
Reason #1: Growing deeper in love with your spouse.
Remember that person who took your breath away the moment you laid eyes on them? Remember that person you promised the world to during your wedding ceremony? If they’re still by your side, considering how complicated you can be, then you should feel blessed. No matter how far along you are in your marriage, intimacy shall always remain. Since your other half was approved by God, take care of them, consider them, and spoil them. If the both of you are not equally watering your love, then it will never grow.
Reason #2: Catch up on a spiritual level.
The beautiful thing about being left alone with your spouse are the heart-to-heart conversations. If the most popular topics at home revolve around your children, then use this time alone with your spouse to reconnect. Ask about how they’re doing spiritually, mentally, and physically. Sometimes the things we barely talk about end up being the most genuine conversations we can ever have. Learn something new about their soul. Remind them of the treasure that they are.
Reason #3: Get your kids to miss you. Or you to miss the kids.
It’s not that horrible to disappear for a moment to experience short absence. It’ll make everyone appreciate each other more. The crazy thing is that my husband and I are leaving to Israel for 10 days and we are not bringing our daughter with. Trust me, I’m already missing Josie just thinking about it. Might be a tad too long of an absence, but that’s what the trip consists of.
Reason #4: Strong relationship between parents means strong family foundation.
Set a healthy example for your children because they grow up just like us! If mom and dad are on the same page, the kids will feel happy and safe. If a home is built around love, then that’s where you’ll see them coming back to.
Reason #5: Unwind, relax, and enjoy yourself.
Think of it as a staycation for a couple hours or even a few! I don’t know about you, but I can fully relax when I’m around my husband. He makes everything go easy and that’s the person I want to be with for the rest of my life. That’s the beauty of being yourself around your spouse and allowing your spouse to be themselves around you.