Happy Tuesday, my main squeezes!
A friend inspired me to write about the beginning stages of praying together with your partner.
I feel like today’s topic should have been shared months ago. Most definitely because Teddy and I broke all sorts of barriers in our first month of marriage. I am aware that every couple is different. Breaking the barrier can take longer than anticipated. Some couples take longer to adjust when having a roommate and others make it click right away. One couple takes longer to date and others jump right into the next level.
In our case, things started moving fast. In no more than two months, we were engaged. I’m thankful that I got to experience what it’s like being an “official” girlfriend to a cool guy; even though it lasted for less than two months.
Everybody has their differences. We all grew up in different environments. Routines and habits are repeated daily. When you’ve come this far in life on your own, having to share it with somebody else can be scary. Some claim that they’re better off alone while ignoring the whole “acclimating” part of life.
Considering that ‘two became one’ causes you to start sharing. Everything hers becomes his and everything his becomes hers. Without giving it much attention, her favorite songs make it to his playlist. All of the sudden, his favorite interests become common to hers. Before you know it, his needs end up on her prayer list and her anxieties don’t make it off his prayer list. Always being there for one another, they are best friends.
Growing up, our parents taught us to say our needs out loud during prayer. I remember praying out loud in church. Speaking our prayers helps with expressing our communication with the Almighty. My favorite part about praying out loud is the “AMEN” I hear after the prayer. It means agreement, fellowship, and unity.
For many people, prayer is intimate alone time with God. When we are used to praying with nobody around, having someone hear you express your innermost desires can be very uncomfortable.
One barrier that many couples face is breaking the awkwardness of praying together. I believe that spoken prayers have been very useful in our marriage. If you’re not practicing this yet, then I suggest you do. Speak your heart’s desire out loud. Your spouse’s presence during prayer shouldn’t be intimidating at all. In fact, it’s supposed to be an encouragement and support. There goes another prayer that will be answered due to the agreement of two (Matthew 18:19.) Don’t neglect that powerful spiritual connection that endures between you and your spouse.
The same goes for the couples that are not married yet. Start praying for your future together, your spiritual growth, and the strong family foundation. Pray about each other’s personal struggles that some call “flaws.” Thank God for the positive qualities you find in each other. Pray for God to forever reign in your future household. Don’t let anything get between you and God at any time!
Praying with my fiance before marriage really set the devotional aspect of our life straight. We both fell in love with the harmony of wholeness. We felt complete!
There are all sorts of barriers out there. Everything ranging from little awkward stages to serious stages that can be critical. Getting comfortable around another person can take some time. Don’t be shy and start taking down one wall at a time! Your relationship will thank you.